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GreeneyesMommy wrote on Tuesday, May 27, 2008 1:33:18 PM EDT in Breast Implants & Breast Augmentation Discussion
Ugh.. Some People

I'm sorry ladies.. I just need a minute to vent here. So if anybody read any of my posts before my BA, I was nervous about my boss and the fact that he thinks everything is his personal business. WELL... He has been acting "mad" at me ever since I got back to work mainly because he asked me what kind of surgery I was having and I simply told him "personal". It's not like I was ashamed or trying to hide anything, but I didn't feel comfortable discussing it with him, let alone answering his personal questions or defending his assumptions. So I have been really stressed out with work for like the last two weeks. Finally one day last week he asked me again what kind of surgery and I still just said personal.  Today he actually asked me to come into his office because he had "only 3 questions".. he said first of all, I would like to know what made you opt to have the surgery that you had. Then he said.. "it's obvious what you have done and it's not like you can hide it and I would just like to know why".  So okay, now he finally figured it out, but does that entitle him to ask me personal questions about it? NO.. AT LEAST NOT IN MY OPINION. I mean gees, I could feel my face getting warm and red because I was not comfortable. I just said, it was something that I wanted to do and began discussing with my dr a cpl years ago.  Then he asked.. "you just weren't happy with the size?"... then he continued his remaining questions..  what size did I go from and to? what doctor? where? what incision? how much did it cost? GEES. None of his business. I CANNOT BELIEVE HE ASKED ME ALL OF THOSE QUESTIONS.

SIghhhhhhhh.. Okay thanks for my minute of venting.

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Xena replied on Wednesday, June 4, 2008 9:24:53 PM EDT in Breast Implants & Breast Augmentation Discussion
Ugh.. Some People

Are you okay??  Have not seen any post.  Hope you are doing well!!

mmanuel1 replied on Wednesday, June 4, 2008 4:54:43 PM EDT in Breast Implants & Breast Augmentation Discussion
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That's highly unethical, and I think is definitely fair game for a sexual harassment suit (I'm not a lawyer, but you may want to consult with oneto be sure).  Keep everything he says documented, and discuss with HR if you need to.  So beyond inappropriate...  Surgery, whether elective or not, is still medical information.  You may even want to check if his questions violate HIPAA.

Gypsy replied on Sunday, June 1, 2008 1:45:55 AM EDT in Breast Implants & Breast Augmentation Discussion
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That is just awful. How are you going to handle this? It's true that he might be asking on behalf of someone else, but even so, he must realize how out of line he is and that what he is doing is sexual harrassment and because he continued questioning you after you told him the surgery was personal and went so far as to pull you into his office, his behaviour is initmidating.

betty boop replied on Saturday, May 31, 2008 7:15:17 PM EDT in Breast Implants & Breast Augmentation Discussion
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girl i am so sorry that you have to work with such a jerk... i mean really it is none of his buissness if he knew then he should have kept it to himself. he obviously knew it was a personal issue for you and so he intruded any way not good if it were me i would look else where for work but if your line of work is hard to find then i would tell him exactly how you feel that way he knows better not to harass you anymore. if he cant handle it then to bad because you are a woman who has the right to stand up for yourself dont allow jerks like him to pry into your personal life... does he not realize that this is sexual harrassment this man needs a serious wake up call.... well good luck and i hope you get through this rough time.

zena1661 replied on Friday, May 30, 2008 6:10:20 PM EDT in Breast Implants & Breast Augmentation Discussion
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Just be careful with the pocket recorder.  In some states it is a felony to record any conversation without the consent of all persons being recorded and it must so be stated on the recording and/or with signed consent.  Just an FYI.

lukn2hvn replied on Friday, May 30, 2008 5:30:10 PM EDT in Breast Implants & Breast Augmentation Discussion
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That is un-freak'n believ-able!!  Seriously. . . there is absolutely no way I would have sat there for that kind of interrogation.  And that is exactly what he did!  He interrogated you on a highly personal topic and he was completely out of line and inappropriate!  Boss or not, "Personal" means just that. . the same as "no" means, "NO".  What a pig! 

The sad thing is, you have to go back in and face this guy on a daily basis now.  I would highly suggest you set the boundaries now!  Now that he thinks it's 'okay' to discuss your personal issues. . . behind closed doors, chances are it won't stop there.  You need to find the strength to cut him off at the quick and let him know what will happen, in no uncertain terms if  he crosses those boundaries again.  You also need to let a co-worker know what's going on so you have at least one witness.  In fact, I would carry a little pocket recorder with me if I were you.  This guy sounds like a real piece 'a work!  If you choose to stay there, you will need to hope for the best but prepare for the worst. 

I sincerely hope it ends where it started but best you be prepared to take it to the next level if he does.

TT Hugs to you,

Mary

 

jpnurse79 replied on Thursday, May 29, 2008 6:22:07 PM EDT in Breast Implants & Breast Augmentation Discussion
Ugh.. Some People

what a dumb a#$$

Jammaty replied on Thursday, May 29, 2008 3:52:35 PM EDT in Breast Implants & Breast Augmentation Discussion
Ugh.. Some People

What a ****, i would report his ***** ***.
Embarassed

gg replied on Tuesday, May 27, 2008 10:23:20 PM EDT in Breast Implants & Breast Augmentation Discussion
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I AM SO SORRY --- I WOULD LOOK FOR ANOTHER JOB VERY SOON AND MAKE SURE YOU REPORT HIM CALL THE BAR ASSOC. AND THEY WILL TELL YOU WHO TO CALL!  DO NOT PUT UP WITH THAT.

VickieM replied on Tuesday, May 27, 2008 9:20:12 PM EDT in Breast Implants & Breast Augmentation Discussion
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Most inappropriate IMO.

VickieM

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